Aggressive “homeless” women in Harlem

I said I would write a blog post about the aggressive “homeless” women that I encountered in Harlem on a double date a few weeks ago.  I’m putting “homeless” in quotes because it is questionable whether these women asking for change and looking homeless are actually homeless.  Many of them are simply drug addicts or hustlers.  A few examples:

  1. Young homeless-looking guy on the subway with a thin dog, asking for food and money.  I told the guy that we could get off at the next stop, I would buy him some groceries, and I would buy some dog food for his dog.  He told me “No.”  Clearly this young man was a drug addict, because why would a legitimately hungry person turn down free food?  He just wanted money, not food, so he could buy drugs.
  2. Man singing on the subway platform.  I give him $2.  He pulls out a fat wad of cash, and tucks my measly $2 inside.  He had more money in his pocket than I had in my purse, bank account, and Paypal account.
  3. Woman in a wheelchair, seemingly with no legs, asking for money.  Nearly every day, people chat with the paraplegic and give her money.  Then she is spotted strolling down the street on two legs.  She had her legs bent under her in the wheelchair.  Scam artist.

I could go on and on, and I’m sure many of you have stories too.  It’s part of the reason why some people never give money at all.  But this post is about the ridiculous, aggressive “homeless” women that I encountered a few weeks ago.  I was on a double date at Red Rooster, sitting on the outdoor patio.  Two aggressive “homeless” women had the nerve to walk up to our table while we were eating and ask for money!  Rude and very annoying.  Even worse, both times they got paid!  Clearly neither my date or I gave these women money, but the couple we were with paid them (smh).  THEN, my date and I walked up the block to a bar and one of the women approached us AGAIN and asked for money.  We told her “No,” but she followed us to the bar begging for money.  She got nothing.  We leave the bar, and who is still outside but this same woman!  She proceeds to beg for money and follow us as we walk up the street to a lounge.  Here’s what REALLY got me hot, though…

When she saw we weren’t going to pay her, she started walking next to my date and saying “It’s my birthday, buy me a drink.  It’s my birthday, buy me a drink” repeatedly.  I leaned in front of him to look at her, and said “The only person he’s going to be buying a drink, is me.”  I could not believe her gall!!  Unbelievably rude, disrespectful, and bold “homeless” women were really testing me that night.  😡  Leave me a comment with your stories of being bamboozled or aggressively approached by the “homeless.”

Content to just be a baby momma?

Kim Porter
Kim Porter

I’m tired of seeing stories that read like this:

“Tyrone Jackson, small forward for the New York Knicks, married his longtime girlfriend, Aisha Smith, this weekend.  The couple has been together for ten years, and have three children.”

WHAAAAT?  Now, I’m sure many money-loving women would have babies with a millionaire just off of GP, but this foolishness happens with non-rich folks too.  Why would you have three kids with a dude that hasn’t married you?  Have you ever heard of condoms and other forms of birth control?  Basically, Tyrone and Aisha (not real people, made up names) started dating ten years ago, he has had numerous girlfriends/hookups/other bm’s since then, and maybe she dated other guys in between (hopefully didn’t have other random babies with these men too).  They kept having sex without protection for some odd reason, and she kept having his babies.  Why?

And why wait ten years for him to marry you?   Like my grandmother told me: You spend all that time grooming a man and you’re just getting him ready for the next girl.  And that will be the girl he meets and marries within a year.  Case in point: Lamar Odom’s bm who was with him for ten years and had three kids with him.  They were at one point engaged, but never married.  Then he meets Khloe and FOUR WEEKS later he’s married.  Honorable mention: Jocelyn Ebron who started dating Kobe when he was 17 and thought she was still dating Kobe when he proposed to Vanessa (after knowing her for SIX MONTHS).  BUT Jocelyn and Kobe were on different coasts and were young so I’ll give them a break for not pressing the relationship.  Still, shame on Kobe for letting her find out through the media that he was engaged to another woman.  Double shame on Kobe for not making Vanessa sign a prenup.  But I digress…

A few more celebrity examples: Kim Porter (a son and set of twins w/ Diddy along w/ a kid by Al B Sure), Tiny (a kid w/ an ex and two kids w/ T.I. before he married her), Savannah (two kids by Queen James, now engaged to him), Tiffney Cambridge (two kids by rapper The Game and perpetually engaged), and Monica (two kids w/ ex-bf Rocko, now pregnant with her husband’s baby [NBA player Shannon Brown]).

Now, it may seem like I’m putting all the blame on the women in these situations.  Yes, I do put most of the blame on them.  Ladies, it is your body.  It is your decision.  And 97% of the time, the child will be living with you, fed/clothed/cared for by you, and sucking up your time, money, energy, freedom, etc.  Realistically, who will have primary responsibility of raising the out-of-wedlock child?  The mother and maybe the grandmother.

There are white celebrity examples, but unwed births are pervasive in our community, not theirs.  Blacks are the ones w/ nearly 70% of kids born to unwed mothers, compared to whites at 26%, Hispanics at 43%, and Asians at 11% (U.S. Census Bureau, 2011).  Why?